I was talking to someone, someone much older than me, and he said "don't say what you don't mean". It was meant to cut off simple feel goodies like "take care, love you."
Now that person could have said, "don't say what you don't fully mean....", which would still have been easier.
My sense is when I usually (used to) say - "take care, be safe and love you", that usually signals that that's what I mean for the other. It's impossible for me to ensure any of the above, including "love you", because semantically "love" can mean such different things to each of us.
I still tell some people sweet goodies.....but I am careful. I don't want the other person to trip.
I usually mean well for others. In fact, I always wish well for others. Including those who I dont get along with. My sense is, them hitting the ball out of the park takes nothing away from me.
So coming back......How do I now convey this to others? Especially to those I care for. That I care for, they mean a lot to me, and I do "love them".
I don't have an appropriate answer. Nowadays, I just say "bye". Most times thats my refrain, even to the daughter.
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